Asking For A Friend host Elisabeth Ovesen, a New York Times bestselling author, relationship columnist and “self love strategist,” dives straight into the topic of polyamorous relationships in episode three.

Ovesen begins by drawing on the public example of television host and actor Nick Cannon’s very high-profile relationships with multiple women and explains their unique circumstances. Cannon’s relationship with each of his romantic partners is a consensual agreement, and all of his partners are aware of one another — it is no secret that Cannon is expanding his family very quickly.

Ovesen moves on to explain that juggling multiple partners is not as rare of an occurrence as one may typically think — people actually do it more often than they realize. She defines the meaning of solo-polyamory, which is “having intimate relationships with multiple partners but still living as a single person, with no primary partners,” and points out that solo-polyamory welcomes issues like consistent lying, omitting information, deceit and emotional unavailability, which can actually be more detrimental to romantic relationships than traditional polyamory.

Tune in as Ovesen shares advice for callers and social media followers who are currently juggling multiple partners or dealing with the catastrophe of being juggled. She shares whether someone should feel guilty for indulging in solo-polyamory, the importance of casually dating multiple people and whether or not it’s possible to bring polyamory into a monogamous relationship.

​​Ovesen also shares her self-created evaluative dating tool, which she’s dubbed the “The Dating Bracket,” and explains how she’s used the tool to rank her different partners based on how well they strove to meet her romantic needs. She says she’s used the tool to assert her romantic boundaries, create competition between her suitors and even remain transparent about her polyamorous relationships — definitely a must watch!

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