As a mature, professional woman in her 40’s who is married with children, making friends was always a challenge for me. An introvert by nature – and at times, socially awkward – it was difficult to make friends in my early 20’s and 30’s. I was young, insecure, non-trusting and to be honest, I was still trying to figure out who I really was as a woman.

It wasn’t until I entered my mid 30’s and became a wife and mother that I realized I didn’t know HOW to be friendly and approachable. It’s not that I didn’t want friends, it was that I didn’t know how to be friendly in a room of strangers. I was never taught how to approach a stranger and strike up a conversation, nor was I taught how body-language, energy, and facial expressions can make you unapproachable to make an authentic connection.

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Once I knew what I was lacking, I then began to work on how to enter a room and create the energy for others to want to engage with me. I took every opportunity I had to work on how to be friendly.

I learned how to walk into a room and create conversations with others while creating the space and energy to allow them to embrace me with conversation and possible connections.

Now, I am a lifestyle strategist who teaches others, such as myself how to enter a room and be conscious of the energy they create to allow engagement and friendship.

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