In the fairy tales little girls grew up on, love conquers all and happily ever afters are the norm. However, seasoned married couples will be the first to tell you that marriage is not always a walk in the park. A recent trend on TikTok is giving Black women then platform to share why “marriage is hard.” Black wives are sharing their insights and shedding light on the complexities of matrimony.

Understanding the Purpose of Marriage


#stitch with @Liver without God, marriage is harder than it even needs to be #christiantiktok

♬ original sound – Atalah Stevenson

TikTok user Ayala Stevenson highlights a profound aspect that many overlook: the purpose of marriage. In her video, she eloquently expresses how many people enter into marriage without truly understanding its significance.

For her, marriage isn’t just about claiming someone as your own or seeking personal gratification. Instead, it’s a sacred union reflecting the relationship between Christ and the church. Stevenson emphasizes the importance of selflessness and dying to one’s own desires for the sake of the relationship. It uniquely mirrors the ultimate sacrifice made by Christ. She reminds users that marriage is inherently challenging, but finds solace in a foundation anchored in faith.

Navigating Life’s Transitions Together

Life is a journey with twists and turns, and marriage is no exception. A TikTok user, who goes by @evolvingwife, touches on the inevitable challenges that arise as individuals evolve and grow within their marriage.

Whether it’s pursuing a career, healing from past traumas or undergoing personal transformations, these shifts impact the dynamics of a relationship. She emphasizes the importance of synergy and creating a safe space within the marriage to weather life’s storms together. Through mutual support and understanding, couples can navigate these transitions with grace and resilience.

Embracing Imperfection and Growth


#stitch with @Liver why i think marriage is hard but its still wonderful #fyp #marriage

♬ original sound – Mrsjadabell

TikTok user Jada Bell dismantles the myth of perfection in marriage. She acknowledges that it’s not solely for happiness, but for personal growth and reflection.

Bell candidly discusses the challenges of communication, compromise and navigating differences within a partnership. She emphasizes the necessity of letting go of ego, embracing vulnerability and supporting each other through trauma and personal struggles. Bell’s insights remind people that marriage is a continual journey of growth. Imperfection should be accepted and celebrated within the union.