Depending on how we decide to live our lives, we either have generational blessings or generational curses. Often, our parents and grandparents make certain decisions, cope with life in certain ways, and develop certain patterns that influence us in some way. Sometimes this can develop into generational mistakes. Let's talk about how to break these generational patterns and turn them into something positive.
3 TIPS TO BREAK GENERATIONAL MISTAKES
1. REEVALUATE YOUR LIFE
You won't be able to break generational mistakes if you don't know where they are. So the first thing to do is take a look at your life and evaluate how you do things. Then, review your parents' cycle of behaviors, thinking, and coping that may have been passed on to you. Look at how they resolved conflicts, communicated, showed affection, handled stress, and used their time. Did they suffer from sickness or mental illness? Did they have bad habits such as drugs or alcohol? If so, how did this affect their decision-making and quality of life? How does it affect yours today?
2. MAKE CHANGES
If you find that your parents' ways of thinking, coping, and behaving are unhealthy, which has caused issues in your own life, it's time to make a change for the better. For example, if your father was an alcoholic and you notice you've started growing a dependency on alcohol, begin to cut back. If your mother dealt with her problems by avoiding them and you're beginning to pick up that habit, start confronting your problems head-on, face the negative emotions associated with these problems, and come up with a solution. If you don't make these changes now, they could become more difficult to change later on. As a result, you could pass these generational mistakes on to your own children.
3. TRACK YOUR PATTERNS
To monitor your progress, write in a journal, speak with friends and mentors, or seek therapy. Everyone has different ways of tracking their patterns. The important thing is to find one that works for you.