If we had a chance to go back in time and redo everything, we would probably pay more attention to those around us who cried out for help, but we were too busy to recognize it. We would ask for an opportunity to get things right and make amends with with our perceived guilt for not doing something sooner. The thing is we don’t get do overs nor can we hop in a time machine and go back to pinpoint the day things changed. We can only accept our past as a lesson for our future. No matter how long we ruminate on something, it doesn’t change things. It only perpetuates stagnation. However, reflection allows for growth and way to gift our past lessons to our future. As much as I would love to change the past, I cannot. These have been the lessons I’ve learned in discovering those closest to me were in battles I knew nothing of.
Extremely Bubbly
The biggest smile may be worn by the person trying to persevere the hardest. While some people are extremely joyous and happy individuals, it has been my experience there are those who attempt to use a smile and extreme joy to mask their pain. Those that bring joy to others often need joy themselves. This is why it is important to examine other factors surrounding the smile.
Mood Swings
Mood swings can mean different things including stress or dealing with grief. If your loved one can seem full of life one day and indifferent the next, there is a strong chance they are in a battle within themselves. We are all entitled to change our moods, however the sudden changes or vast changes can indicate something else.
Unexplained Injuries/Bruises
Accidents occur. I’ll be the first to say that I am a bit uncoordinated at times and will trip on my own two feet if I’m not careful. Usually my mind is in other places. However, there is no accidental “hitting a doorknob” or hand marks around the neck that magically gets there. Systemic Lupus or even embolisms may produce unknown bruises on the body, but those grab marks on the wrist and arm; or war wounds on the back of shoulders aren’t the examples the medical community cited.
A Change in Diet/Appetite
Changes in diet and/or appetite is a symptom that is also associated with many illnesses. Again, in conjunction with possible other signs, it can point to depression, grief, stress or even abuse. If you notice that your loved one is eating excessively or not enough, let them know that you are there for them.
Intimidated Easily
This is a direct sign of abuse. If your loved one’s confidence has dropped or they are often easily intimidated then there is a chance that they are being bullied or abused. Observe your loved one around their companion or individuals close to them. Does it feel like they have to walk on eggshells? This is usually a tell tale sign.