You hustle, work hard, and you earn your bag. There’s no argument that you are a certified boss. While there’s room in your schedule for hard work and sweat, there also has to be space and time for rest and relaxation. You are not just the “strong Black woman,” but there’s more complexity and layers to who you are as a woman and human being. Here’s five tips for the boss lady who wants to enter her soft girl era.
Say ‘No’ to Code Switching
It might be tricky, but for the bossy lady looking to step into her soft girl era it will help to show up as your authentic self, even in professional settings. This means loving who you are and the things that make you who you are, wherever you go. Not allowing yourself to bend to societal pressures of what is professional or “proper” can be difficult. Surrounding yourself with positive people who support you is key.
Let Go of People’s Opinions
Living as your true, authentic self and constantly worrying about what other people think is like oil and water. To enter your soft girl era, it will require you to lean into self-awareness and set your sails for the life that you want to live, regardless of what people think.
Fill Up Your Cup With Things That Bring You Joy
A key to living a soft life is living a life of joy. This means leaning into whimsy and play, aka the things that fill up your cup and make your heart smile. This could mean setting aside time to travel more, to journal daily, to spend time with friends, or to dive back into a childhood activity that you love. Whatever you do, fill your days with things that allow you to indulge in and celebrate life.
Learn to Walk Away
In order to live a “soft life,” it’s essential to metaphorically walk away from the table when love is no longer being served. This might mean walking away from a job, a romantic relationship, or a friendship that no longer serves you. As Black women, it’s been ingrained in us to wear our superhero caps and armor while enduring neglect, abuse, and harm from the people in our lives. This can harden us, but in order to live a soft life, knowing when to walk away from the things and people that no longer serve us is essential.
Lean Into the Present Moment
When your mind is constantly racing from thing to thing, you are not present or grounded. Being able to slow down and savor the little things in life allows you to be fully present and engaged. It also helps you to cultivate a spirit of gratitude.
You hustle, work hard, and earn your bag. There’s no denying you are a certified boss. While there’s room in your schedule for work projects and client meetings, where is the space and time for rest and relaxation? You are not just the “strong Black woman.” You have complexity and layers, and are ready to center feminity and softness. Here are five tips for the boss lady who wants to enter her soft girl era.
Say No to Code Switching
It might be tricky, but for the bossy lady looking to step into her soft girl era, show up as your authentic self, even in professional settings. You must love yourself no matter where you go. Although it can be difficult to ignore societal pressures, staying true to yourself is possible! Surround yourself with positive people who support you and lean into the real you.
Let Go of Other Peoples Opinions
Entering your soft girl era will require you to be more self aware and live the life you dream, regardless of what people think. Other peoples opinions of you no longer matter when you’re relaxing away from the constant noise of social media and societal pressures.
Fill Up Your Cup With Things That Bring You Joy
A key to living a soft life is living a life of joy and leaning into being whimsical and playful. Do the things that fill up your cup and make your heart smile. For you, this might be setting aside time to travel more, journal daily, spend time with friends, or dive back into a childhood activity. Whatever you do, fill your days with things that allow you celebrate life.
Learn to Walk Away
In order to live a “soft life,” it’s essential to metaphorically walk away from the table when we are no longer being served love and kindness. This might mean leaving a job, romantic relationship, or friendship that no longer fills your cup. As Black women, we’re often expected to endure neglect, abuse, and harm from the people in our lives. This can harden us. But in order to live a soft life, knowing when to walk away from things and people is essential.
Lean Into the Present Moment
When your mind is constantly racing from thing to thing, you are not present or grounded. Slow down and savor the little things. To live a “soft life” you should be fully present and engaged. It also helps you to cultivate a spirit of gratitude.