We all go through seasons when we are feeling down. Yet, bills are still due. There’s still work to be done. Mouths still have to be fed. It doesn’t make it easier to come out of the dark tunnel of emotions when the world keeps spinning. When you are walking through seasons of stress, sadness and grief, it can be helpful to have someone offer you support as you navigate through it. Although it can be scary, vulnerability and human connection are tools that can help lift the weight of heavy emotions.
If you know someone who is going through a difficult time, it is important to understand their propensity to isolate and how difficult it might be for them to share. Here are five ways you can reach out to your friend that is feeling low:
Reach Out Without an Expectation
“You don’t have to respond, but I just want to let you know that I am thinking of you.” This is as simple as it sounds. Send them a text to let them know that you are thinking of them. Don’t add any pressure for them to answer questions or divulge information. Sending them this simple message will let them know they are in your thoughts and you are there whenever they need a friend.
Check In
“How are you feeling today?” Ask them how they are feeling in person, on the phone or through text. Try not to overwhelm them with a lot of questions, but if you start with asking how they are feeling, then you might open the door to a conversation. The goal is to not provide them with solutions (unless they ask for them), but to simply create a space where they know they are safe to share how they feel.
Reiterate Your Support
“I am here for you.” Again, emphasize you are here for whatever they need. Whether that is a listening ear, a crying shoulder, or a sounding board for ideas and solutions, offer them the support they need during this difficult time.
Be Patient
“It’s okay if you do not want to share, but I am all ears when you need me.” Alleviate any pressure for them to share what they have walked through or explain their feelings. Just let your friend know that you are available to listen and create a safe place.
Ask What They Need
“How can I show up for you best right now?” You never want to force yourself or your advice on a friend who is having a difficult time. If you don’t know how best to support a friend who is feeling low, ask them. The best way to show up and communicate love is how they will receive it. Don’t be afraid to ask what they need.
Last but not least, sometimes, when you don’t have the right words to say, just being present is more than enough. Showing up and sitting with your friend in their feelings of loss, heartbreak, or sadness, lets them know that you are there for them no matter what.