In the early stages of dating, you’ll probably ask your significant other many questions while spending time with them. But even after the relationship is established, it’s impossible to know everything. Asking the right questions will help you figure out where your relationship is headed and what’s most important to them in the long run. Here are seven interesting questions to ask your partner.
What’s On Your Bucket List?
A bucket list is a list of things that a person wants or plans to do before they die. It might seem morbid to some, but it lets you in on a person’s values. At the same time, it provides clues as to what sort of activities they might be interested in for dates.
What Are Your Top Three Adventures?
The adventures a person has experienced are indicators of what they’re into and how they like to spend their time. What might seem adventurous to them may only scratch the surface for you. Or, it might be along the same lines of what you also consider to be an adventure. In either case, it’s beneficial to know the bounds of a person’s top three adventures. Maybe it’s skydiving, bungy jumping and white water rafting. You can both enjoy determining each other’s capacity for outdoor activities.
What Is the Hardest Life Lesson You’ve Learned?
Having the emotional intelligence and overall capacity to learn from life lessons can set a person up for success. It isn’t about perfection or getting things right the first time. It’s about the situation that led to the life lesson and how they pivoted in the moment. Ask this question to get a glimpse on how your partner faces adversity and how important growth is to them.
What Is Your Favorite Thing About This Relationship?
Prepare to blush as your partner’s response to this question could be affirming and sweet. Perhaps their fave thing about your relationship is that you make them feel safe and seen. Ask them to include details to prolong the blushing and to confirm how you can continue to show up for them. You could also answer the question to see if your answers are the same.
What Did You Like Most About Me When We First Met?
Lasting impressions are often what maintain connections. Whether it’s a person’s timeliness or the scent of his cologne, there’s something about your significant other on that first date that would or would not allow them to secure a second one. It could be a person’s sense of style or humor or certain features of their body although ultimately how a person carries themselves has a great impact. Prepare to be reminded of traits that you may already embrace or that you don’t normally pay attention to.
How Have Your Parents Impacted Your Take On Love?
Whether their parents are happily married or divorced can impact how open they are to getting to know someone or expressing their true feelings. Often in situations of vulnerability, like relationships, we want to feel a certain amount of safety before taking steps to deepen the connection. However, for some, just the idea of a relationship makes them feel unsafe. Learn your partner’s parents’ impact on how they view love and relationships for the health of your own.
What Fulfills You?
Asking your partner when and how they feel most fulfilled can provide you with insight on their goals and how they achieve balance. Feeling fulfilled can be external based on a list of things to be achieved, or it can be a personal list of what they do or need to feel fulfilled by themselves. In either case, knowing what’s important to your partner and what makes them feel centered can clue you in on how to support them on their path or create opportunities for them to stay self-connected.
Have you asked your partner any of these questions before? If so, and some time has passed, it might be worth revisiting to see if the answers changed. You can never know too much. If you’ve never done anything like these before, use these questions as your next date night adventure. You may come away with an even stronger bond.