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13 steps to transform your tragedy into triumph

Sometimes it hurts. Deeply. I'm not referring to your everyday, run-of-the-mill disappointment, I'm talking about that heart wrenching, sick-to-your-stomach, earth-shattering kind of distress that makes it hard to swallow and difficult to breath. The kind of loss that makes you question everything you thought you were sure of. The kind that forever alters the way you look at...

13 ways to manage college-related stress

Transitioning to college can be as scary as it is exciting. Living away from home, prioritizing responsibilities and parting with lifelong norms can all be pretty stressful. According to a survey of more than 93,000 students at 108 colleges by the American College Health Association, more than half experienced overwhelming anxiety, while 85.6 percent of students felt overwhelmed by all...

17 reasons why you need to start journaling today

I have been journaling from the moment I learned to form cohesive sentences. Over time, the content of these entries has evolved from the amateurish accounting of daily events to shameless self-involved teenage dramatics to strategic life mapping. I realize that verbalizing thoughts and ideas comes naturally for me as a writer, but journaling isn't just for wordsmiths. In fact,...

11 self-help books written by black people that will get you through anything

When you're in the midst of a transition, whether it's career, relationship, finances or all of the above, sometimes it's helpful to hear a word from an expert or someone who has already been where you're trying to go. Although the term 'self-help' can sometimes come across as corny or preachy, the following black authors have woven humorous, poignant and...

Maximize your summer braids with these 5 easy styles

Summer is right around the corner, which means it's time to face this humidity and hit these beaches without the worry of maintaining these natural tresses. Like many black women, I happily dedicated a full Saturday at the salon for my install. This season, I went with waist length Senegalese twists. Although I absolutely adore my zero-maintenance look, I quickly grew tired of...