Fluidity within gender and sexuality is becoming more common. The norms around gender roles are quickly getting dismantled, giving humans permission to be nuanced and authentically them. While the social climate surrounding sexuality has shifted in favor of those who reject boundaries and restrictions, acceptance has seemingly moved at a slower pace within the Black community.

While 12 percent of queer adults in the United States are Black, they are more likely to experience verbal abuse, threats of violence, workplace discrimination and community rejection than their white counterparts. This is why antiquated norms revolving LBGTQ+ identity have persisted within parts of the Black community.

A now-deleted tweet recently went viral, where a bisexual Black man confessed to experiencing more success dating white women than Black women. He claimed that straight Black women were more closed-minded, not giving him a chance due to his sexual identity. This tweet sparked much debate, with many Black women finding the narrative slanderous. Others concurred with the sentiment, admitting they themselves had a problem with dating a bi-sexual man. 

Black Women Dating Bisexual Men

In order to get a true pulse check, 21Ninety asked an anonymous group of heterosexual Black women “Are you opposed to dating a bisexual man?” Here are their responses:

Yes, I am a straight woman and I prefer a straight man.

I’ve dated men who were bisexual and didn’t even know it, it would have been way easier for all of us had they just accepted their truth.

I think as long as the person is faithful, their sexuality for me isn’t really an issue.

I gotta be real, it depends on how queer-coded he comes off. If it’s obvious, I can’t do it. If he’s straight-passing enough, I don’t mind.

Yeah, I’m not into it. It would just make me look at him differently.

Not for me. No shade to bi or gay men, it’s just a turn-off for me to know that you’re into other men, too.

Definitely opposed. I’m not finna argue with a dangly cross earring.

I actually prefer it. My bi ex is my favorite ex. They’re more emotionally intelligent and nurturing. 

I don’t care at all, it’s 2025. Why would this even be a question? 

I just want a man who won’t lie. Black, white, bi, straight, I don’t care anymore I’m tired.

Yeah. That’s just more people to cheat on me with. No thank you.

I’ve never dated a bisexual man (that I’m aware of) but I’d be open to it. I think I’d just worried about not being enough for them, but that’s an insecurity that can come up in any relationship. 

Final Thoughts

Many Black women cite hygienic fears, the higher probability of cheating and getting the ick when it comes to not dating bisexual men. Others find the entire sentiment to be offensive and antiquated, hoping to see better from their fellow sisters. Whether you may fall on the spectrum, only good can come from honoring your boundaries while leaving room in your heart for the unexpected.