Life can be hard to traverse if you’re going at it alone. Sometimes making the right decisions can feel like a real challenge. Tapping into the wisdom of people who have been in your shoes before can be an excellent resource. In a viral Instagram post, Black women over the age of 35 are offering up some of the lesson’s they’ve learned so far to women in their 20s.
Advice For Black Women
The post, which garnered over 2,000 likes and over 1,000 comments, was full of wisdom. Women from all over flocked to the comment section to share their views on the world and how to navigate it. Here are a few of the best pieces of advice in the thread.
This user made it clear that there are a lot of norms that women have to break early in their 20s. There are a lot of positives in life and in order to achieve them, you must make the right decisions that your future self would be happy about. Always make sure to set yourself up for success.
1. Firstly choose your friends wisely, make sure they add value to your life and not putting you in a position that may ruin your future.
-@charmtravels
2. Don’t be afraid to Date ! Society conditions us to see women who date multiple men until they find the one as undesirable but they are in-fact smart! They can define what they want , develop a tolerance to rejection, and feel confident in their decision! The women who wait be chosen have a lower satisfaction rate than women who go after the life they want!!
3 . focus on your career AND A skill. Both hand in hand will make your lifr easier. Money doesn’t but happiness but it buys TIME ! Time means you can do the things you dreamed of doing!
4. Get a therapist if you can. Start working on yourself and being the best you. This is how you attract and clear the way for the life and partnership you want!❤️
Women are stronger together than separately. This user not only shared some advice on being the best version of yourself at all times but most importantly, she shared that hating on other women will only dim your light.
Work on you and you alone. Heal and grow. Get to know who you are. Don’t stay on relationships based on potential. Believe them the first time. Explore the world and go on many adventures. Get out of your comfort zone, this world is one big shade of grey. Stand up for yourself. Boundaries Boundaries Boundaries. Don’t hate on or be jealous of other women. You don’t know what she has done and gone through to get where she is.
-eviestingz
Even the celebrities popped in to share their knowledge. Keri Hilson left a comment letting women know that the people you keep around you are extremely important. She also shared that it is important to enjoy life and do what makes you happy.
Curate your tribe, start weeding out the liabilities/toxicity in your relationships. Try lots of new things to expand your horizons & discover your passions. Date to have experiences so you learn yourself & discover your needs, but be very choosy with your body…preserve it for the deserving. Don’t rush to marriage w/ the first person you love. Begin cooking. Become financially literate. Make responsible decisions you won’t pay for later.
-@kerihilson