If you feel like you’ve been missing that special spark in the bedroom, you’re in luck. There are several ways to bring some extra spice into your sex life with your partner. One way to go about it? Introducing wax play.

Wax play can be very intimidating, but no need to worry. Check these tips for beginners!

First, What Is Wax Play?

Wax play involves applying hot, molten wax from a candle on your partner’s skin, for pleasure purposes. The person who receives the wax may feel a slight burning sensation when wax hits the skin. Wax play can be fun for both the person receiving and the person applying. The person receiving the hot wax may get stimulated from slight pain and the person applying the wax might enjoy a sense of having power over the receiver.

Best Candles For Wax Play

To start, you have to figure out what candles work best for your skin. A general rule of thumb for those starting out: always use candles that are intended for actual wax play. It may not be the best idea to use those tea light candles you have laying around. Soy candles would be the safest bet to start with. Try to avoid dyed, metallic, scented and stearin-based candles.

Safety Precautions

Before you begin, you should always have a few items handy for safety purposes. After all, you are literally playing with fire. A few items to keep handy are a cool cloth, first aid kit and fire extinguisher. Additionally, make sure there are no flammable items around. It’s best to have the receiver lie down on a plastic sheet or a damp cloth to help keep the mess in one area. The receiver should be massaged with oil or lotion in order to create an easy removal and to ease the initial shock of the wax touching the body.

Test It First

When experimenting with wax play, you should always test the wax on less sensitive areas of the body first. Start off with the back and shoulders and then slowly move to more sensitive areas, such as the inner thighs and stomach. Keep the wax away from the head, face, open wounds and genitals. Another rule of thumb: The further away from the skin, the safer. Try to drip the wax from a high level, rather than at a low level.

Communicate With Your Partner

This is probably nerve racking for both you and your partner. Discuss safety protocols with your partner from the beginning. If either of you feel uncomfortable with anything, there should be a safe word in place to stop the activities and regroup.

Clean Up

Once you have finished your wax play session, make sure to let the wax cool off first before any attempt at removal. It can be stubborn so make sure you have the correct tools available to help like a loofah, butter knife, comb or a plastic card. Try and remove a majority of the wax before you get into the shower, your drain will thank you later.