In SiriusXM Urban View's latest episode of The Mike Muse Show, Grammy award-winning singer and songwriter Monica opened up about what's new and happening in her life as she gears up to host her new VH1 true-crime series, Infamy; When Fame Turns Deadly.
While the famed singer has tried her best to live her life outside of the limelight and balance the realities of fame, she's now giving fans a glimpse of what life has been like dealing with a year-plus of the pandemic, the aftermath of her divorce, and how she's finding "space and solace" once again.
"Once the pandemic hit, we really understood how important it was for us to be together. And for us to be able to, you know, you're stuck inside, but who you're stuck inside with determines how well it goes," she told Mike during their interview. "I'm inside with people that I love, that I know love me, but when it comes to the outside, we wanted space. So we moved somewhere everyone could be satisfied."
The pandemic showed a lot of us how vital personal space and peace are to our daily mental wellness and this year of reflection is something that Monica used to her advantage. Living in a hotel for ten months after her divorce from her ex-husband, former NBA player Shannon Brown, gave the singer time to find a home just right for herself and her family.
"What I realized is I need peace and solace where I live. That's important. That's first. Because how do we do this type of job if we don't have that?" she continued. "So this house really has been a blessing because that's a big transition from a two-bedroom and all of us in it. And we were bonding and having a good time and ordering room service and making the best of it, but in all truth, you want your space. You want them to be able to grow up."
In her interview, Monica also spoke on the importance of reflection and forgiveness, referencing a recent Instagram post when she was recovering from surgery. The caption for her post emphasized a message she wanted to get to her fans in which she told them to forgive their parents.
The 40-year-old's message about forgiveness in her interview also led to a story that revealed why her song, "Why I Love You So Much," was written about her father. "I'd never been in love with anybody. 13 recording records like that, so I used my dad as a point of reference because I was not speaking to him at all at the time, per my choice, not his," she shared.
"I know I'll always love him, but this is how I'm upset about what I feel he didn't do when I was growing up or getting to this point. But as I grew older and became a parent and also interacting with other parents, I realized some of us aren't equipped with the same things and some of what I expected of him; he wasn't capable of."
"So forgiveness is for you. It's freeing for the mind. It's freeing for the body. It's freeing for the spirit," she added. "That's the goal. Breaking generational curses and not holding onto what wasn't done, the way we felt like it needed to be. "And that was what I hoped people would take away from it. A lot of what I've been through is to help other people through."
She concluded her interview by sharing more about happiness, social media, and why we must be intentional about our actions and choices. "Even when I'm striking a pose, I hope that I exude happiness because it's something that I fight for," she said. "And when I'm not in that space, I don't bring that to you. Because I feel like when I bring myself to you, I bring my best self because just as you don't know what I'm going through, I don't know what you're going through."
Monica's experiences in life, love, and the music business have shaped her into the woman she is today. Through those lessons, she's now trying to pay it forward and share her own story in hopes of helping someone else find the same inner peace she has.