Dating can be hard. It might seem that the number of dating apps available would eliminate the stress of finding the perfect match. Not quite. It’s possible to feel like you’ve learned everything there is to know about a person. Then, out of nowhere, an issue arises that you never expected. Because of that, it is important to ask the right questions from the very first date.
First dates are all about getting to know each other. When you ask the right questions, you can unlock so many pieces of information like a person’s interests, hobbies, and passions. This will help you gauge compatibility. Dating as a Black person holds its own set of cultural nuances. It is important to see if you share the same cultural interests and beliefs. If you fail to do so, eventually, very important issues that speak to your background could cause a fracture in the relationship.
21Ninety has rounded up some of the best questions to ask on a first date when dating a Black man.
Spicy Questions To Ask On A First Date
Spicy questions can help add some fun to your date while also opening the door to discuss sexual exploration. If you feel your date growing uncomfortable pivot to safer territory.
When was the last time you had sex?
What is your biggest turn-on?
Are you open to exploring different types of relationships such as polyamory?
Do you think monogamy is realistic?
What’s the most daring thing you’ve ever done in your life?
Have you ever been in love with more than one person at the same time?
How important do you think physical chemistry is when it comes to relationships?
Do you have any interesting fantasies?
How far would you go on a first date?
What’s the wildest thing you’ve ever done on vacation?
Are you looking for something serious or just for fun?
What do you think is your most attractive body part?
Romantic Questions To Ask On A First Date
Romantic questions can help you and your date understand your love languages and how you like to express yourself. These questions can range from fun to serious.
What’s the most romantic thing someone has ever done for you?
What do you consider the ideal relationship?
How do you express love and affection towards your partner?
Are you willing to go out of your comfort zone for someone you love?
Do you think it’s important to have strong intimacy in a relationship?
What are some of the things you find most romantic?
What are some of the things you love about Black love?
Are you a hopeless romantic?
What is your idea of a perfect romantic evening?
What makes you feel most loved?
What is your love language?
What is the best advice you have ever received about love?
Fun Questions To Ask On A First Date
Don’t forget to let your hair down and actually enjoy the dating experience. Lighthearted questions like these can add some levity to your experience.
What is the most embarrassing thing to happen to you?
What do you like to do for fun?
If you could get paid to do anything for 24 hours straight, what would it be?
When was the last time you laughed until you cried?
What are some random fun facts about you?
What types of music do you listen to?
What is the weirdest place you’ve ever been?
Who would you like to swap places with if you could?
Which cartoon character do you think you most resemble?
What is your favorite Black 90’s movie?
If you were an animal, what would you be?
Would you rather spend a day at a beach or in the woods?
Intentional Questions to Ask On A First Date
Some questions just can’t be ignored, even if you’d prefer to not go too deep. These intentional questions are helpful to figure out if there is the potential for longevity even early on.
Were you raised under a certain belief system or religion?
Would you be open to dating someone from another religion?
What are your long-term goals?
Where do you see yourself in five years?
Do you see yourself getting married?
What are you most determined to accomplish?
What type of legacy do you want to leave behind?
How do you deal with conflict in a relationship?
What are the things that you think make a relationship special?
What do you think is the most important aspect of a relationship?
What does your ideal relationship look like?
What are the things that you think make a relationship strong?
Deep Questions To Ask On A First Date
Ready to dig deep? Try these questions that go way beyond just scratching the surface.
Who is the most important person to you in your life?
Can you describe the most beautiful thing to you?
If you could do one thing before you die, what would it be?
How important do you feel it is to give back to your community?
What aspects of Black life do you feel should be talked about more?
How did your parent’s parenting style affect you growing up?
Is there an area of your life where you feel like something is missing?
What are your thoughts on communication in relationships?
Do you see yourself getting married?
Other Important Questions To Ask On A First Date
When was the last time you got tested?
What is your stance on women’s rights?