Today, I want to talk about comparison. As human beings, we have all dealt with it at one time or another, and it’s one of those things that can rear its ugly head at any moment. We tend to look at another's life and think, why do they have it all together? Why isn't my life turning out the same way? If we’re not careful, we can fall victim to comparison very quickly. What we need to remember is that everyone is on their own path and their own journey.
When we’re so plugged into what every other person is doing and achieving, it can be tough not to compare our own lives to others.
When you start to feel that way, remember these key things:
No one has it all together
Whatever lives people are selling on Instagram and Facebook, it’s likely only 1% of the whole picture
“The only person you should try to be better than is who you were yesterday.” – Unknown
Everybody has their own personal demons that they are dealing with
Instead of focusing on what someone else has over you, use that time and effort to create something that is amazing and uniquely your own
“Comparison is the thief of joy.” – Teddy Roosevelt
Everyone is capable of creating an abundance of happiness
There is room at the table for all of us to succeed
Don’t let comparison turn your heart to stone. Be proud of other's successes. Coldness isn't a good look sis
Don't let comparison affect your focus
No one’s journey is the same as yours. We’re all running at our own pace and we’ve all started at different times
Coming from my own personal experience, I know that comparing yourself and what you do to others in the same field, same age or same circles, can significantly affect your focus. When someone I know received a promotion instead of me, I immediately went to a dark place. I kept thinking, ‘well maybe I'm not experienced enough or talented enough as my peers.’
Instead of using all this time and energy self-doubting, I decided to rise up and strategize on how I could reach that next step in my career.
Do not look at what everyone else is doing and beat yourself up for not being where they’re at. It doesn’t mean what you're doing is any less, or that you are not worthy. When I notice this destructive behavior, I try to stop those feelings right in their tracks and remind myself of this list.
This goes for everyone. Don’t tear yourself apart by comparing yourself to your peers. Instead, look at all you’ve accomplished. Set out to crush new goals, and keep moving onward and upward!
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