We all know there are so many steps in planning a wedding. From the budget to finding a dress and bringing your dream wedding to life. It can be overwhelming and a lot to process but it's also suppose to be a great experience! In order to make it a smooth and enjoyable process you should be aware of a few do's and don'ts when it comes to wedding planning. So let's get into the do's and don'ts you should consider before you say "I do!"
Do’s:
1. Do Be Realistic
Since a little girl most of us have dreamt about how we want our wedding to look. What dress we want to wear, how we want our hair, decorations, all that. However, if your “dream wedding” doesn’t make sense for your pockets then be realistic and cut back on unnecessary things. Spend your money and energy on the most important elements for your wedding and if you have room to spend more money once you get those items out of the way then do so. Don’t go broke flexing for social media if you don’t have it, make it make sense.
2. Do Get Your Ring Cleaned
Before your big day go and get your ring clean sis! We need that thing shining as you say “I do!” and in every picture taken. Don’t you want your ring to be beautiful and sparkly the day of? Of course you do it’ll make you feel extra special. You could even invest in a ring cleaner and do it yourself before special occasions while also saving money!
3. Do Enjoy The Moment
The day of your wedding can feel like a blur! Everything happens so quickly and it’s a lot to process. Please, I repeat PLEASE take a moment to stop and enjoy your day. Live in the moment, take everything in and cherish it. You’ve spent a lot of time, money, effort and energy on this big day. Plus this big day is ABOUT YOU so bask in excitement sis!
4. Do Make Planning A Joint Effort
Now listen, I know weddings seem to be all about the bride however, you’re not marrying yourself so DO include your spouse! Allow your partner to feel included and don’t take on all that responsibility by yourself. Enjoy the experience of building you all’s special day together.
Don’ts:
1. Don’t Deal With A Bad Bridesmaid
Asking your tribe, your girlfriends, ride or dies to stand beside you at the alter on your wedding day is such a precious and memorable moment. They have most likely seen you at your worst in relationships and now at your best, so of course you want their support and love on your big day. Being a bridesmaid is also a big deal and could get pretty pricey and time consuming. As we understand all of this what we’re not doing in 2022 is having a bridesmaid that’s in and out of wedding festivities. It’s understandable if you can’t make one of the events but if you miss all events for the bride like bridal shower, bachelorette party, welcome dinner, etc. then maybe that lady doesn’t need to be in the wedding. Just have them as a guest and keep it moving.
2. Don’t Wait A Year To Send Thank You Notes
Let’s be honest, it’s pretty impolite to wait a whole year to send out thank you notes. Not only is it impolite but it’s harder to do. Waiting a whole year means keeping up with cards and information regarding the guest list and presents. Stay on top of the task, write while you’re still feeling the emotions and be done with it.
3. Don’t Book Unprofessional Vendors
Planning a wedding can of course be stressful but it’s also suppose to be fun and you should cherish every moment of it. Like most brides I’m sure you have a vision and certain vendors in mind that you would love to work with. However, in 2022 if that vendor isn’t responding to you and keeping it professional then we’re not booking with them! It doesn’t matter how awesome their work is or how many views on Instagram they have. If their professionalism isn’t up to par then they don’t deserve your money sis!
5. Don’t Self-Isolate
Being a bride can be overwhelming and make you feel all kinds of emotions. When and if this happens don’t isolate yourself and try to handle everything by yourself. Seek help whether that’s professionally, from your family or friends. Reach out and be honest with yourself, your spouse and your tribe.