Just a few clicks and showing the tiniest bit of interest in a topic can completely change your TikTok. One side of the app some frequent users have found themselves on is Kink-Tok. On that side of the app one can learn about different types of kinks, how to satisfy them and even how to unlock new kinks. One recurring theme seen on that side of the app is about praise kinks.

Getting praised, for the most part, is pretty enjoyable even outside of the bedroom. For some, however, what could simply be a light-hearted compliment can be a huge turn-on. Now, some people are learning about and detecting their own praise kinks via TikTok. The hashtag “praisekink” currently has over 60 million views. Several creators on the app are posting videos about the type of phrases they like to hear. There are an even larger number of viewers and commentators agreeing.

Phrases include, good girl, I love the way you do that, or you’re doing such a good job.

Feeling a little hot and bothered? Maybe you too, have a praise kink. But first, 21Ninety wants to help you fully understand this kink.

What is a praise kink?

A praise kink is a type of sexual kink where one gets pleasure or arousal from being praised or complimented. These can be compliments about your appearance or telling you that you did something good. The range is large, but typically it’s simply about being seen for something you’ve done. Even down to the manner of which you ate your food.

Praise kinks may be unfamiliar to some people, but for others, it’s a normal day. In the large world of BDSM, many believe that it’s all about discipline and punishment. That isn’t always the case. A lot of dominants actually give their submissives compliments for sexual gratification.

It is also very important to clarify the differences between a fetish and a kink. If someone has a fetish, they have an unusually strong fixation for an object or act which is needed to gain arousal. A kink, however, simply enhances a person’s sexual arousal. In essence, a praise kink just adds to the sexual experience and may even help your partner climax better or faster.

There are many ways to give and receive praise to satisfy one’s praise kink including but not limited to praising:

  • Physical appearance or body parts
  • Performance during sexual activities
  • Obedience or submission
  • Intelligence, creativity, or other non-sexual traits

Praise Kink Phrases

  1. Good girl/boy
  2. Good job
  3. You’re so good at [insert skill]
  4. You look so good when you [insert action]
  5. I can’t stop thinking about your [insert body part]
  6. You’re sex personified
  7. I love the way you [sexual activity]
  8. Your [insert body part] is irresistible
  9. I’m proud of you
  10. You taste so good. I can’t get enough of you
  11. You feel incredible
  12. You really know how to use your [body part]
  13. You’re doing amazing
  14. Just like that… you’re doing so good
  15. Who taught you how to be so good at [action]
  16. You have no idea what you’re doing to me
  17. Just like that
  18. Look at you
  19. You always know just what I need
  20. You have a fantastic body

How to open the conversation about it

If you feel you have a praise kink you may be wondering how to successfully share your new-found discovery with your partner and include it in your sex life. It’s fairly simple. The most important part is to have these conversations while you’re fully clothed. Make sure you both are in an intentional headspace.

Depending on the type of relationship you have, you can simply just have the conversation. For others, you may need an assist. You can send a TikTok video about praise kinks and ask for your partner’s thoughts. You can even send them this article.

Once the conversation opens, that’s when you can discuss the types of praises you think you’d like to hear. It’s important to be vocal and know that everything is trial and error. Some people love “the term, good girl, while others are totally grossed out by it.

The possibilities are endless! Open communication and patience are very important when introducing new things in the bedroom. Happy praising!