Most women today might say they have nothing in common with the women of the 50s and 60s. With their starched dresses, high heels and aprons, there seems to be a disconnect between the modern women in her leggings and messy bun. However, one thing that both women can relate on is they are both taking on a bulk of the household labor. Here are a few ways you can bring equality to the division of labor in your home.
Make Chore Lists
Whenever you have the chore conversation, start with a list of everything the household requires. You should also include the items you need to purchase. Writing down each task on paper will make it easier to split the household chores fairly.
Ask for Help
Life has its ebbs and flows. Some days you have all the time in the world to do what you need to do. Other times, you’re overbooked. Instead of trying to tackle it all, ask your partner for help. You can negotiate by taking on some of their tasks or agree to be there to help when they need it. Either way, don’t let a hectic week, keep you from tapping into the benefits of having a partner.
Do What you Love… or Don’t Mind
Not all chores are the same. People have preferences. If you’re someone who doesn’t mind doing the dishes, but absolutely abhors taking the trash out, make those quirks known to your partner. Hopefully, you’re with someone who won’t mind taking on the things you’re not so fond of. This will help in the long run, when it comes to the division of labor.
Share Unpleasant Tasks
Things, like changing stinky diapers, aren’t exactly high on the favorites list. One person doesn’t want to feel like they’re always doing the grunt work. For the most unpleasant chores, try to share them, so that one party doesn’t become resentful.
Renegotiate
If you or your partner take on new, more demanding work schedules, edit the chore list. If you have children and one person is taking on more parenting responsibilities than the other, see which chores the other parent can take on. There may be chores that aren’t even a priority any more. Adjust the list to fit your life. Communicate about the changes and what you need and come back to the chore list whenever you feel like you’re in a different space.