With the recent slew of “Who is Charity Lawson?” internet searches, Bachelorette fans can’t help but ask about the 27-year-old’s dating past, and rightfully so. After undergoing a tumultuous relationship before dating Bachelor star, Zach Shallcross, Lawson opened up about the toxic, mentally and verbally abusive relationship, which took an enormous toll on her mental and physical health. Now the lead star of The Bachelorette, Lawson hopes she will find a life partner with whom she can spend the rest of her life. She’s looking for someone who shares the same morals, values, and views on love as she does. “I’ve waited forever to find the love of my life,” said Lawson during season 20 of the Women Tell All Special. “It blows my mind that I could meet my person and be engaged and literally have my happily ever after.”
So without further ado, Who exactly is Charity Lawson’s Ex-boyfriend? Here’s everything you need to know.
The couple dated for six years
Though we don’t know the name of Charity’s ex, during an interview with Bachelor Nation, she shared that they dated from high school to college, though the relationship was apparently on and off. The couple dated for six years and ended because of it being unhealthy. Lawson also noted that she really did believe her ex was the one until she realized that she had to break things off before it got worse.
Her brother didn’t know if Charity would survive the heartbreak she experienced with her ex
During Zach Shallcross’s season of hometown dates, Charity’s brother Nehemiah revealed to her that he didn’t know if she could survive going through the heartbreak phase with her ex. He expressed that he didn’t like seeing her in that way and that he doesn’t want to see her get heartbroken again. During the episode, Nehemiah also expressed to Charity that there were other women involved and to keep that in mind in the event that he could break up with her. “There are other women involved with this. Are you prepared to go through heartbreak again?” he asks Charity during the episode. “Because when it happened before, I didn’t know if you were going to be okay and I did not like seeing you like that.”
Lawson revealed that her ex cheated on her with someone she knew
Lawson’s ex was surely bad to the bone. During season 20 of the show, she revealed to Zach that her ex-partner cheated on her with someone she knew, stating that “The relationship prior to being here — it was an emotionally abusive relationship for me. I never honestly felt what it feels like to be seen as a partner,” Charity told Zach during their helicopter date. “It was just a relationship that had several occurrences of infidelity.” Way more than probably anyone could imagine. She continues, “It just became this really vicious cycle of manipulation.”
Zach Shallcross shared that his breakup with Lawson was “The hardest decision he had to make”
While Charity placed in the final four of Shallcross’s Bachelor season, things took an unfortunate turn of events after Charity shared her feelings for Zach and described the details of her toxic ex. After realizing that he wouldn’t be able to give her the love she deserves, Shallcross decided to lovingly break up with her in hopes that she could find her future person. He described his decision to be one of the hardest decisions he’s ever had to make. “You deserve all the love,” Shallcross told Lawson. “I couldn’t give it to you,” he explained after the fourth rose ceremony.
Charity expressed her gratitude to Zach, thanking him for providing her with a safe space
It’s hard, sometimes, to express gratitude for the lessons we learn from breakups that help us along our dating journeys. In this case, Charity’s heartbreak with her previous ex didn’t stop her from expressing gratitude for everything she’s learned. She thanked Shallcross in an Instagram post for allowing her to be herself and sharing parts of her that were hidden from the world. “To Zach, thank you for allowing me to be a part of your journey. You provided a constant safe space showing grace, compassion, and always allowed me to share parts of myself that were hidden. I wish you nothing but the best as your journey continues!
“One thing I know is true: the best is yet to come! 🤍#thebachelor#bachelornation.”