Throughout human history, bonds and partnerships have been the bedrock of societies. These ties, which span from fleeting acquaintances to lifelong commitments, shape people’s experiences, decisions and narratives.
Among the various forms of commitment, there are two that are often used interchangeably, but have stark differences. Partnerships and relationships are two terms that each hold unique attributes and purposes. Frequently mistaken as synonymous, understanding the nuances between them can enhance the quality of our interactions and associations. While relationships celebrate emotional connections and shared histories, partnerships are a testament to combined objectives and mutual growth.
“A partnership is a type of relationship; however, every relationship is not a partnership,” said Jasmynn Abernathy, a licensed marriage and family therapist and relationship coach. “A partnership is intentional, requiring both parties to agree on the parameters of the relationship.”
“Every partnership is different, but each partner would bring a specific set of qualities that are supportive of the overall health of the relationship dynamic,” she added.
Can A Relationship Be A Partnership?
Dating, at its essence, seeks more than just emotional connection. While attraction and feelings lay the groundwork, a successful long-term bond often hinges on mutual growth and shared aspirations. It’s about finding someone to navigate life’s challenges, celebrate successes and build a shared future.
“A relationship can definitely evolve into a partnership when both parties deliberately establish this specific dynamic,” Abernathy said. “I don’t believe you unintentionally slide into a partnership. You’ll know your relationship is more of a partnership when you begin discussing your relationship expectations on both sides and how each of you contributes to the long-term goals of the relationship.”
Abernathy also adds that you may recognize a “steady pattern of give-and-take” in the relationship. This is a sign that each of you are contributing equally to the union and that it could potentially transform into something deeper. She noted that just because a couple is in a partnership doesn’t mean they possess a “deeper connection.”
A major factor here is intentionality,” she said. “Making a sound-minded decision to partner with someone is very different from being connected to someone simply based on an emotional experience.”
Transitioning Into Something Deeper
Transitioning a relationship into a partnership requires intention and strategy. As emotions run deep in relationships, introducing purpose can be challenging. Both parties must align on shared goals, articulate roles clearly and maintain open communication. This shift, while demanding, can deepen the bond and pave the way for combined achievements.
“Communicate, communicate, communicate! Your partner is not a mind reader,” she told 21Ninety. “Maybe you started off less intentional about your relationship. If that’s shifted for you, talk about it. Talk about what partnership looks like to you and what it means to you.”
Abernathy added that an individual should not be afraid to walk away from the relationship if their partner isn’t in agreeance for a partnership and the relationship isn’t a good fit.
“Having similar goals is essential when it comes to establishing partnerships. Folks can be in a relationship, have entirely different outlooks on life and have very different long-term goals,” she said. “Some relationships don’t evolve beyond the talking or dating stage to the partnership stage because there isn’t substantial communication about each person’s desires and aspirations.”
A couple’s intentions is what will prompt a commitment.
“If you want a partnership, don’t settle for a relationship incomplete with parameters and a mutual understanding of expectations,” she said. “Maybe you’re in a space where you don’t desire partnership, and that’s okay. However, if you prefer partnership and desire a lasting, fulfilling connection, ensure your actions align with that goal and communicate this as you’re dating.”
Is a Marriage a Partnership or a Relationship?
When a person is dating with intention, the end result is typically marriage. By Abernathy’s definition, a marriage would be an example of a couple’s commitment to each other. It transforms a relationship into a lifetime partnership, where both of the parties involved put equal effort into maintaining the union. A marriage combines the emotional connection that you share initially with your partner with practical, decision-making qualities.