There was a time when couples sleeping in the same bed together was considered taboo or too risque to show on television. But that hasn’t been the case since black and white TVs. Today, the image of a couple in bed together reflects not only the potential for sexy time but also connection. The bed is where those late-night conversations happen and life decisions are made. So, it is sad to give up that closeness. But if your sleep is suffering being close to the one you love, consider sleeping in separate rooms. Here are some surefire signs that you and your boo should sleep separately.
You Wake Up Still Feeling Tired
If you roll over, look at your partner, and are filled with resentment instead of warm, loving feelings, that may be a sign that it’s time to relocate. Whether they move too much, pull all the covers, or scratch you with their talons, something about their presence in your bed prevents you from sleeping as soundly as possible. Waking up and feeling tired can impact the rest of your day. And if you do it too many times, it could be dangerous.
The Snoring is Out of Control
We know our loved ones can’t control their snoring. But if you’re the one who is awake and having to deal with them, it doesn’t matter. You want them to stop…immediately. Listening to someone snore all night long will make you grind your teeth in frustration. Sometimes, even contemplating shaking or kicking them awake. You don’t want to be that person. Sleep soundly and safely in another room.
You Have Different Schedules
Whether you work different shifts or one person is a night owl and another is an early riser, differing sleep schedules are challenging. Trying to sleep while your partner types away on their bright laptop screen is annoying and will keep you from getting the rest you need. But you don’t want to sound like your partner’s parent, enforcing a strict bedtime. With your own bedroom, you can spend time with your loved one when it’s convenient for you both and drift off to sleep when you’re ready–and they can do whatever they’re doing into the wee hours of the morning, in their own space.
You Require Different Sleeping Conditions
Some of us like to be cozy and warm when we sleep. Others want the air conditioner on sixty and a fan blowing in their face. Some people want a firm mattress, and some folk like to sink into their bed. Do you require complete darkness for the best night’s sleep? Or do you like mood lighting? If your partner doesn’t have these exact standards, it doesn’t mean that you’re not a match. You might be better off sleeping separately.
You’re Good at Creating Intimate Moments Outside of the Bedroom
Intimate moments can mean everything from sex to pillow-talk conversations. Sleeping separately requires you to be intentional about the time you spend with one another outside of the bedroom. Are you and your partner still able to have sweet, serious or silly conversations after you both come home from work? Can you meet in one person’s room or a common area for sex and sleep later? If that’s not a problem, sleeping separately could be more helpful than harmful.