On February 14, the world is adorned in hues of red and pink, celebrating love in pairs. Society’s pressure to have a significant other on this day is loud. Valentine’s Day is inherently geared towards couples, creating an environment that might feel exclusionary for those flying solo.
Even those who attempt to make the coupled up holiday, single friendly may find push back to their efforts. Challenges, such as booking an experience for one can be surprisingly tricky. Some establishments adhere to a minimum booking rule, requiring a party of two or more. For instance, Lilian Ogbuefi posted about her experience of trying to treat herself this coming holiday.
“Y’all have got 24 hours to answer,” Ogbuefi captioned her video speaking to the company Napa Valley Wine Train. “Because that shade was just too heavy.”
Ogbuefi was unable to book a single ticket for the train experience. When attempting to do so, the company’s website would automatically include two tickets in her cart. If she tried to remove the second ticket, the site would inform her there was a two-ticket minimum. In her social media video, Ogbuefi humorously called out the company for reminding her that she’s single.
Ogbuefi’s video, while filled with laughter and light heartedness, points to a pervasive assumption that Valentine’s Day is is exclusively for couples to celebrate. It reflects broader societal expectations that inadvertently make single individuals feel like outliers. The incident also underscores how businesses, knowingly or not, contribute to reinforcing these norms. There needs to be a shift in perspectives and recognition that love and celebration of it can take diverse forms.
Single Women, Valentine’s Day Is Your Canvas
Luckily, Valentine’s Day can be a canvas for the art of romancing yourself. Single women can turn the tables and celebrate themselves rather than succumbing to the societal pressure of coupling up. For example, a solo day trip to the neighboring city or state or a simple staycation.The relationship with oneself is a continual exploration, deserving of the same tenderness and devotion one might extend to a partner.
This day doesn’t need to be a source of dread for single women. Instead, it serves as an opportunity for self-affirmation and celebration. By navigating through societal pressures, single individuals can redefine the narrative of this romantic holiday. So, to all the single ladies, remember that this day is yours to define.