Podcasts are one of the most popular media mediums in the world. However, over the years, Black women have felt the sexism, danger, and misogyny from some male-hosted podcasts. Some dispel red pill content and hateful rhetoric towards Black women.
In this saturated and often hostile landscape, one podcast is cutting through the noise and standing out as a safe space for meaningful dialogue: the “Grits & Eggs” podcast, hosted by Deante Kyle. With over 400,000 followers on TikTok alone, Kyle is using his platform to challenge patriarchal norms and speak up for Black women. It’s something that feels increasingly rare in a digital space flooded with performative allyship and hot takes designed for shock value.
In fact, Kyle’s recent “Grits & Eggs” podcast clip went viral among Black women.
Deante Kyle ‘Grits & Eggs’ Podcast Viral Moment
Earlier this month, Kyle spoke on the ‘Grits & Eggs’ podcast about how uncomfortable women (especially Black women) feel around dangerous men. He posted a snippet from the episode on TikTok and the post has over 800,000 likes and counting.
“You may not harass women. You may know how to take rejection. The majority of men that most women deal with do not. And you are accountable for that as well,” Kyle stated in the episode.
Kyle didn’t stop there. Titled “Riding of the Rebel,” episode 67 of the podcast went on a deep dive about debunking the alleged war on Black men waged by Black women. Kyle compared women’s valid claims of experiencing dangerous men with Black people’s valid feelings about white people. The parallel he drew was eye opening.
“I don’t have time to figure out which White people are nice or aren’t racist. I have to go on the actions of the group. The group as a whole, and the history of that group as a whole tells me that they are a danger to me and they are not be trusted,” Kyle said in the soundbite.
Black Women’s Reaction to the ‘Grits & Eggs’ Podcast’
Along with virality, Kyle’s podcast clip features thousands of comments from Black women feeling seen and understood.
One user appreciated Kyle’s analogy comparing Black women’s struggle with misogyny and sexism to Black people’s experience with racism.
“If it’s 100 snakes I’m not testing to see which one is poisonous,” the comment read.
Another commenter pointed out how although all Black men aren’t dangerous, the ones who have ill intent aren’t checked by their peers, therefore enabling their dangerous behavior.
“They act like they don’t hear how their friends, brothers and fathers talk about us,” she commented.
Kyle took the risk of naming the silent majority of men as part of the problem, even if they don’t see themselves as aggressors. It’s a radical and accountable take that defines allyship as active, not passive.
One comment with over 19,000 likes simply stated plainly, “Literally the only man who deserves a podcast 👏🏽👏🏽.”
An Important Protest
Overall, Kyle’s ‘Grits & Eggs’ podcast is a media protest against the hateful rhetoric and opinions surrounding the relationship between Black women and men. It’s a breath of fresh air amongst the recent hateful rhetoric towards Black women victims of abuse and sexual assault.
For example, as many people have been supporting the bravery of Cassie Ventura and Halle Bailey, there are some who have completely denounced their experience. Although these women bravely shared their stories, commentators often clouded the conversation with misogynoir. Kyle offers a much-needed countercurrent. He affirms that Black women deserve to be heard, believed, and protected.
What makes “Grits & Eggs” so powerful isn’t just that Kyle “gets it.” It’s that he models what it looks like when a Black man uses his platform to actively debunk harmful narratives. Kyle isn’t pandering. Instead, he’s holding up a mirror to other men and saying, “This is the part you play, and here’s how you can do better.”
At its core, Kyle’s podcast questions what it really means to be in community with Black women. The answer isn’t comfort but it’s accountability and action; that’s what makes “Grits & Eggs” a must-listen.