Side chick culture is on the rise. And many say that every woman has been a side chick whether they knew it or not.

What is a Side Chick?

A side chick is a woman who carries on a romantic or sexual relationship with someone who is already in a committed relationship (or married) with another partner. This type of arrangement is often kept hidden from the primary partner and can be conducted either knowingly or unknowingly by the involved parties — making it quite difficult to detect.

The Consequences of Infidelity

Infidelity is one of the most damaging actions for a relationship. Not only does it cause immediate emotional distress and sorrow, but it can also have long-term consequences such as mistrust, insecurity, and even divorce. Infidelity undermines the trust that is essential to any healthy relationship. This can make it difficult to build or maintain a connection between partners.

How To Leave a Two-Timing Partner

Cheating can be devastating to any relationship, but it’s important to remember that you do NOT have to stay with someone who’s hiding their spouse.

If you find out that your partner is living a double life, you have a right to walk away. Because not only does infidelity damage the trust and respect in a relationship, but being a side chick can also put your well-being in danger.

Instead, you deserve to be treated with honesty and respect, so don’t let yourself stay in a relationship where you aren’t feel valued or appreciated. Letting go of your partner may be the right decision for your well-being. Not to mention, it’s never too late to start anew.

To effectively leave a double-crosser for good, remember to take the time to take care of yourself. This includes getting support from friends and family, seeking help from a therapist or counselor if needed, and taking the time to process all of your emotions.

Here are seven tell-tale signs that you might be the side chick:


He Has Little Time For You

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If your partner rarely has time for you or only contacts you sporadically, this could be a sign that you might be the side chick.

For example, they may make excuses for why they can’t spend more time with you such as being busy with work or friends. But if they don’t seem to be able to give you the same level of commitment as their other relationships, it could mean that you are being treated as a second choice.

If this is the case, it may be time to have an honest conversation about what is going on and decide if the relationship is something that you want to continue.


You Don’t Go on Actual Dates

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If your partner refuses to take you on proper dates, it signals that the relationship may not be genuine.

What constitues as a proper date varies from person to person, however it should involve a bit of effort such as taking the time to plan out an activity.

A cheating partner is unlikely to think of activities where they can get to know you better. Instead, they might prefer meeting up on the fly, if at all.

This type of behavior could be a sign that your partner is not invested in the relationship and may be cheating on you. If this is the case, it would be wise to re-evaluate your relationship and consider whether you find it worth continuing.


You Haven’t Been to His Place

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When your partner is living a double life, they’re unlikely to invite you to their place. This could be a sign that they don’t want you to know who else has been in their home, such as a girlfriend, wife, or even children.

If your partner is secretive and avoids inviting you over, it might be time to start asking questions and take a closer look at the situation. The lack of transparency in this regard could be a sign that something is not right with your relationship.

Be sure to trust your gut and address any and all suspicions you have to ensure you’re the ONLY woman in their life.


They Won’t Define the Relationship

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Defining a new relationship is an essential step in developing connections and fostering meaningful interactions. It can help create a strong foundation for lasting friendship and intimacy.

But when someone is cheating on their partner, they are often unwilling to define the relationship with the side chick. This can be a sign that they want to keep the relationship casual and avoid getting too attached.

If the person you’re dating refuses to give a solid answer about where you two stand, it may be time for serious conversations about what each person wants from the relationship, including any boundaries that should be set.


He Won’t Introduce You To His Loved Ones

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Meeting the family is an important milestone in romantic relationships. However, it can be a red flag if your partner isn’t willing to introduce you to their loved ones. It could indicate that they’re trying to hide something from those closest to them, such as an affair or a secret relationship.

Of course, everyone moves at their own pace. And many people consider introducing their partner to family to be a big step. For this reason, if you find yourself in this situation, try to talk openly with your partner about why they avoid allowing you to meet their friends and family. They just might have a valid reason for why they choose not to.

So have an open and honest conversation with your partner, trust your instincts, and take the appropriate steps to protect yourself whenever necessary.


They’re Behavior is Hot and Cold

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Have you noticed that your partner always views or even ‘likes’ your social media posts without saying a word to you outside of social media? Or perhaps they act flirty through text but moody in person?

Cheating partners may attempt to keep the lines of communication open with their side chicks by leaving them breadcrumbs such as phone calls, text messages, and even social media ‘likes’ to keep them interested.

These breadcrumbs can be difficult to detect because they often appear innocuous enough that their true purpose remains hidden from view.

If you think your partner is breadcrumbing you, consider whether you’re truly getting what you want out of the relationship. If not, it may be time to walk away.


They Hide You on Social Media

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A cheating partner may try to hide their affairs by limiting your visibility on social media. They might block or unfriend you, delete posts and photos of your relationship off their profile, and even stop following you altogether.

And if someone is particularly crafty, they can even create secret accounts to post photos with spouse or children while keeping you in the dark. They may also take extra steps to avoid being found out, such as using a VPN or different devices to access their social media accounts.

This behavior is often a telltale sign of unfaithfulness and should not be ignored. Instead, talk to your partner about any suspicious activity so that you can get to the bottom of the situation.